What Would My Wingman Say?

For as long as I can remember, friends and family have referred to me as “the best wingman.”  One morning as I was walking my dog, Monte, in the park, I thought, “What would my wingman say?”   Suddenly it occurred to me that being outside of myself and my situation would provide a much better perspective than being so deep into it that I lose all ability to creatively think and solve problems.

So I started asking myself, “What would my wingman say?”  The answer is simple:  Be your own wingman!

This is fantastic!

What is a wingman?   According to the U.S. Air Force, the traditional military definition of a “Wingman” refers to the pattern in which fighter jets fly. There is always a lead aircraft and another which flies off the right wing of and behind the lead. This second pilot is called the “Wingman” because he or she primarily protects the lead by “watching his back.” In the Air Force, a wingman is the one who looks out for the pilot from the wing.  He’s out there on the side lending support, making observations and providing situational awareness and direction to save the pilot from disaster or misfortune.

A great wingman does three things:

1) Sees clearly because the wingman is looking at everything from a different angle.  It’s like looking at things from up high in your “treehouse” looking down at your life; the big picture gives a more complete perspective.  You begin to see the Law of Attraction in action. (more on this later)

2) Always sees the positive aspects in all situations because as the wingman, you want your lead, your pilot, to be successful so you are constantly looking for ways to help your lead be successful.  Seeing positive aspects becomes instinctive to a great wingman, and all it takes is a little practice.  By the way, practice is a great word to use here because anything in life worth achieving requires continued dedication and continual practice.  I understand what it means to be practicing Law of Attraction.

3) Always looks for solutions upon seeing a problem.  The Law of Attractions says that wherever a problem is presented, its solution is also presented.  There is always a solution to a problem, even if the solution means walking away or making peace with the situation.  You control your reactions.  Your wingman helps you find good, viable solutions.

This too becomes instinctive with a little practice.  A wingman’s job is to protect and serve the lead pilot, so why not be the lead and think to yourself, “if I was in the wingman’s position, what would I say or do?”I have learned that it is much easier to see what is really going on when you are the wingman.  If you sit me at a poker table, I will be able to tell you who has the best hand 99 out of 100 hands.  That is, until I am involved in the hand.

Being your own wingman teaches you to rely on and trust your own instincts.  And so my practice involves daily “staff meetings” with myself – the parts of me that are responsible for bringing in new clients, keeping my relationships harmonious, looking for ways to bring more fulfillment into my life and growing into a more confident, happy and relaxed person.

The purpose of this website and my blog is to help me and you better become our own wingmen.

How? Certainly one way is by practicing asking myself, what would my wingman say? I invite you to follow what I am doing, try it for yourself and let me know what you think.  Let’s make this a place where together we can use the Law of Attraction principles to transform our lives and give ourselves a chance to get really good at bringing to life anything we desire.Follow my blog at

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