A Last Minute Disappointment…

Ahhh… Stowe, Vermont in September.  What could be more beautiful?

We were all set for our latest house and dog sit on a ten-acre farm in Stowe.  We’ve been loving our travels all around the world, from the cliffs of Ireland to the cloud forest of Ecuador, the beaches of Thailand and Bali to the amazing, cosmopolitan Sydney, Australia. But, we started having a hankering for a little exploration right here in the USA.  And so, when a house and dog sit opportunity presented itself for September in Vermont, we jumped.  There is not much I enjoy more than a morning hike through nature with a dog at my side.  And this house sit, provided just that.  I was so excited to be in the perfect place at the perfect time.

So as Jan and I got in our car the other day and were driving north on I-95, visions of crisp morning walks, farmer’s markets with fat pumpkins and juicy apples and a canopy of red, yellow, and orange leaves swirled through our minds.  We were an hour deep into these visions when the phone call came in on Jan’s phone.

Cancelled!  At the last minute.  “Wwwwhhhhhhaaaatttt”, I exclaimed!  “What do you mean, we’re cancelled”?  “What happened”?

What happened doesn’t really matter.  The fact was we were heading north and we now had no destination.  What a bummer.

Have you ever had a last minute change of plans?

A disappointment that seemingly came out of nowhere?

Let’s face it, as far as setbacks go, this one was pretty minor.  I mean, it wasn’t like losing your job, your spouse or your health.

But I was expecting a free month in a beautiful area and it was no longer happening.  It wasn’t hard for me to recognize my vibration was no longer “wingman worthy”.

What’s a wingman to do?

Well I’ll tell you what this wingman did. I pulled off the highway to the nearest diner for a breakfast of eggs and potatoes, which always raises my vibe, and Jan and I began a Wingman practice I call the “Three R’s”.

 Reassess. Regather. Regroup.

When things change in your life, a loss occurs, a disappointment, a shift in plans, too often, we as humans can’t see past that occurrence and our vibration reflects that stuckness.  Instead of addressing the big unknown of, “what’s next?” we stay stuck on the problem in the now, only to keep smacking into a vibrational wall of pain.


When circumstances change, it’s wise to reassess your situation. 

Ask yourself… “Where am I right now”?  And don’t start your answer with where you thought you were going to be.  That only keeps you in a negative place and it’s no longer relevant.  For us, our situation wasn’t really too bad.  We had a car packed full of clothing, a full tank of gas, and nowhere to be.  That actually didn’t sound too bad.


Things have changed; when that happens it’s a good idea to regather your thoughts.

Again, don’t contemplate what was to be, or where you were two minutes prior.  If each one of my thoughts began with, “I just lost a free month on a farm in Stowe, Vermont”, my momentum would continue downhill from there.

Jan and I decided to start right where we were, in a dive diner off of I-95, with a car full of clothing, a full tank of gas, and a month where no one expected us to be anywhere.

“What do we want to do right now” is how we began to regather our thoughts.  We took a minute, cleared our heads, and opened our minds to the possibilities.


Whenever I coach individuals or speak at workshops about being on the Wingman’s Path to positivity and a more joyous life, I always begin and end with, “Observe Your Vibration”.  It was time to regroup, and to me, that meant getting my vibration, the frequency I was emitting out into the universe, back on a positive path.

How?  By envisioning what would make us happy.  In that moment.

It didn’t take long for the answer to come to us.  We had been to Belfast, Maine a few times in our lives and had always talked about going back.  As the waitress refilled our coffee, Jan got busy looking at Airbnb’s.  By the time we paid our bill, our new course had been plotted and we had plans to stay the next week in a 2-bedroom apartment above a hardware store on Main Street, right in the center of Belfast.

Reassess your situation.

Regather your thoughts.

Regroup your vibration.

And start to be your own Wingman.

You can click below to practice the Wingman Three R’s practice with me…

To being able to pivot your way to positivity when things don’t go as planned,
Your Wingman,

A New Wingman Mastermind Group

It’s Time to Mastermind!

Do you have a desire you want to manifest? A dream you’ve secretly been hoping for? Or a goal you want to achieve?

Let our Wingman Mastermind Group help you.

We invite you to join us, Michael Gross, Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and Janet Sokoloff, LCSW Psychotherapist, for our next Mastermind Group,

“Creating the Life You Want”.

A Wingman Mastermind Group is a group of individuals that come together as a team to help each other achieve their personal goals and manifest their desires by providing ideas, accountability, cheerleading, feedback and support.

This two month on-line Mastermind Group will bring together people who share your desire to alter their present situation and live a more authentic life.

Whether it be a career change, a health or fitness goal, a loving relationship, complete lifestyle shift or whatever you can imagine, this group can help you see that goal come to fruition.
Through weekly group conversations and individual coaching sessions, we will help you succeed at overcoming your challenges and manifesting your desires.



“The change is definite. I truly feel as if there was a general shift within me, placing me at a higher vibrational set point. I now find the achievement of my goals believable and certain. I never felt that way before. I think it’s because of the ongoing support and homework from this mastermind group that made that shift possible. So thank you Michael Gross and Janet Sokoloff!  Thank you group!”  
                     Lisa Shiroff, Voorhees, NJ

After years of feeling stuck in our lives and jobs, we took a major life leap and have since been living the life of our choosing by traveling the world and working remotely.
This experience has led to our firm belief that anyone, and everyone, can live their own dreams.

“Thank you Janet and Michael. Your Mastermind group has helped me tremendously. It has helped me clarify my goals, set an accountable timeline to reach those goals and given me tools to overcome obstacles along the way!! I feel like I can’t fail. Great Job!”
  Hugh McGuire, Collingswood, NJ

Join us for this exciting and enriching experience and start moving in the direction of your goals.
We will be facilitating each meeting, utilizing our many years of collective experience in life coaching, psychotherapy, and thought and vibration shifting processes.

“My initial goal of a healthy, fit lifestyle is already coming to fruition with the intent and energy with which we have fueled it. Now, new visions are flowing to me to expand. Thank you to Janet and Michael for honoring your vision to create this mastermind group. Thank you to each of our members for sharing with us. It truly is beautiful how our intentions are swirling and overlapping to be able to help each other rise higher.”
                   Bella Beth Evans, Greenville, South Carolina

In this group you will:

  • Find answers and ideas from brainstorming with the group
  • Tap into the experience and skills of others
  • Increase your confidence in your ability to achieve your desires
  • Gain an instant and valuable support network
  • Experience a sense of shared endeavor
  • Enjoy a boost to your everyday positive mental attitude

We’re looking for team members who are willing to:

  • Participate in each call
  • Share their expertise and challenges
  • Come prepared to each session
  • Be committed to achieving their goal
  • In order to receive maximum benefit and attention, this two-month on-line group is limited to six participants.

This investment in yourself will cost $550.00 and includes:

  • Seven-90 minute on-line group sessions from wherever you are in the world
  • Weekly individual 30 minute coaching sessions with Michael and Janet to keep you focused, motivated and on target
  • Weekly Homework
  • Daily support, motivation, inspiration and conversation via a private Facebook Group page


We will meet on-line on Tuesday Nights from 7:00-8:30pm EST
Session Dates will be September 12th, 19th, 26th, October 3rd, 10th, 17th, 24th.

Individual Coaching sessions can be scheduled weekly.

Register now for this life changing experience.



We look forward to being a part of your success team,
Michael and Janet

+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.

++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.

Join us Thursday.

We’re so excited to invite you for a night of conversation, inspiration and vibration raising as we discuss manifesting a joyous life.

As you may already know, two years ago, Janet, an LCSW therapist, and I, took a leap of faith, sold our home, left our day jobs and now live and work nomadically.

It’s the life we desired.

The question we get asked the most is how we did it.
How were we able to shift the reality we were living to one of our own design?

Join us, as we answer that question and inspire each other to dream big and start creating the life you desire. Let’s explore what steps you
can take today, right now, to start moving in the direction of your goals and dreams.

Thursday, July 27th, 2017.  7-9pm.
Location: Just Breathe, 2800 Rt 130, Suite 100, Cinnaminson, NJ 08077
$18 in advance, Payable through PayPal, $20.00 at the door
RSVP: Michael@beyourownwingman.com



Your Wingman,

+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.

++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.

Coming Home, But To No House.

When you decide to make the world your home, life truly becomes a great adventure. Every new day is an exploration, always new, always different and usually exciting.

But what happens when you’re back on your home field, without your old comforts?  When you no longer have your house, your stuff and you’re always staying with friends.

When everything you own is in a 10 x 15 storage unit, and you don’t even remember what’s in there.  I can’t tell you how many times Jan or I have referenced an article of clothing, a piece of furniture or a favorite tchotchke, only to have it followed by,

“somewhere in the storage unit”.

Yes, Jan and I are very fortunate to have some amazing friends that offer us not only a roof over our heads, but the loving feeling of being at home. It’s really wonderful, but no matter how comfortable and loving they are, when we’re back home, we’re always living as a guest.

It’s just a different feeling than cooking in your own kitchen, hanging in your own easy chair, watching your own TV, or sleeping in your own bed.

Yes, I’m putting my travels on hold for a time and coming home once again, even if I have no house to come home to.

Jan’s actually been in Haddonfield, NJ, our “home turf”, with her family for the last couple of weeks while I’ve been hanging with my Mom in Providence, RI visiting her each day at her assisted living facility.

And it’s there, in these past two weeks, I’ve come to appreciate my true home.
Because without Jan with me, I’ve become the most boring person alive.

I’ve been staying at my sisters while they’re on vacation.  Each and every day has been pretty much the same.

I come home after being with my mom, feed the cat, give her some love, and then watch TV.  And they don’t even have cable!

I’m literally one step away from becoming a crazy cat lady.  Well two.

“Home could be the Pennsylvania turnpike
Indiana’s early morning dew
High up in the hills of California 
Home is just another word for you”  Billy Joel

That’s right.
The world may be my home, but Jan is my world.
And I can’t wait to be home, wherever that may be.

This week, home is New York City and then a week in Pipersville, Pa.

Then finally, a month back home in Southern New Jersey where I may not have my easy chair, but I’ll have a Donkey’s cheese steak, some Croce’s buffalo chicken and broccoli rabe, breakfast at the Bistro in Haddonfield, and some old friends.

And I’ll be with Jan.
I’ll be home.
And I’ve never been more thankful for that.


Today’s Wingman Practice:

I realize I’m a lucky guy.
And maybe that’s not where you are right now.
Maybe you’re in a living hell.

You’re not alone.
We’ve all been there.
Some us for years, even decades.

And it doesn’t matter physically where “there” is. I spent the better part of 15 years as a victim in my own mind.

If that is where you are right now, today’s practice will help you raise your vibration and begin to climb out of that hellhole.

Or if you’re in a great place, it will help you make it even better.

Join me, and for one minute say, I’m coming home.  And while saying it, think about what home is to you.

When I think of home, I think of love, comfort and safety.
A place where I can totally just relax and be me.
A refuge from the storm.
Soft pants, sweat shirts and slippers.

Or I think of Jan.  And I can’t wait to be home.

For you, imagine your home exactly as you want it to be.
And see yourself right there.

How does that feel?
That is the vibration I want you to practice sending out into the universe.

Click below and practice with me.  I’ll also be doing this practice live on Facebook on Sunday morning.

To your perfect home, no matter where, or who, it may be,

Your Wingman,


+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.  
++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.

Back on Budget for $18 a Night.

As we awaited our speedboat ride from Amed, Bali to the island of Gili Air, Lombok, the beach was a frenzy of activity as women separated luggage by destination and carried suitcases on top of their heads to load them on top of the boats. We watched this organized chaos with wonder.

When they called us to board our boat they had all 20-30 of us place our shoes in a fraying red plastic laundry bin so we could wade out to the water to climb aboard the boat. Luckily there was a strapping 20 year old Dutch man behind me who held my tote bag and hand as I pulled myself up. Michael was lost in his own world assessing the thong bikinis that surrounded him!

Like most things in life, even though the events are fixed, our experience of them is unique unto us. So as Michael sat in the back of the boat laughing with the crew as water and waves sprayed him, I curled up in a ball, popped Dramamine, clutched a plastic bag and prayed for the ride to be over. One hour later, thankfully, it was.

As the boat pulled into Gili Air, a crew member instructed us to climb up and scale the entire outer length of the boat to disembark. I must have looked at him as if he were insane. But he just grabbed my tote and my flip flops for me and with as much grace as I could muster, hanging on for dear life, scale the boat I did. With a sigh of relief we grabbed our suitcases and climbed on a tiny, rickety cart pulled by an old rickety horse to take us to our guest house.

Welcome to Gili Air.

You see, there are no taxis on this island, no cars, no motor bikes, and for that matter, no roads. Only a sandy, dirt path which runs the perimeter of the island and takes about one hour to walk.

As we bounced around on the cart, holding onto our luggage, Michael looked at me with that look that said, “What have you gotten us into this time”? I wasn’t sure. But I told him, “The place is $18.00 a night, has AC and breakfast is included”. “EIGHTEEN DOLLARS”, he exclaimed, and settled right down.

The cart dropped us off on the path and the driver pointed us down a dirt alley which at home you wouldn’t walk down on a bet. But we were in it now. “Let’s go”, I said with as much bravado as I could muster. At the end of the alley, there was The Aloe Vera Bungalows where we were greeted with smiles and welcomes and a mango smoothie. They escorted us to our garden bungalow, the smell of the frangipani flowers scenting the air.

So, let me tell you what $18.00 will get you in Gili Air. A clean as a whistle bungalow, with AC, big bed with mosquito net, a small fridge stocked with water, a room fan, and an electric kettle with coffee and tea. A simple, comfortable room. The bathroom was large and like many bathrooms in SE Asia, the shower head is on the wall, a part of the bathroom. So, yes, when you shower, everything gets wet. There were decorative cut outs on the upper wall which allowed a breeze to come in, as well as bugs. Happily there was a sturdy door that separated it from the bedroom.

At about 30 meters from the “road”, the place was always quiet except for the sounds of the roosters’ morning call at 5:00 AM and the faint melody from the mosque at the same time. We slept soundly, and happily awakened to a delicious breakfast. My go to was watermelon juice and an exquisite banana pancake, Michael had creamy iced Vietnamese coffee with a vegetable omelet. We never had such a well spent $18.00 before. Of course, this had Michael calculating what his monthly rent would be if we never left!

What you can’t get for $18.00 perhaps, is a bungalow situated on the island’s “good” beaches, those with clear turquoise waters, and views all the way to the bottom. We are on the part of the island known as Sunset Beach, which in all honesty is not the most beautiful beach on the island, the water filled with seaweed and toe stubbing coral. But come twilight, people begin arriving on foot or by bike to take their seat on the beach, cocktail in hand, awed into silence, as this glorious sky transforms itself into a spectacular tapestry of color.

I’m not entirely sure what makes one place magical and not another, why sometimes we feel it and other times it eludes us. But here on Gili air, we did find magic. Part of it is surely the effort it takes to get here, the dreamy landscape, and the total absence of vehicles, everyone making their way by foot or bike save the occasional horse cart. The food helps, the warm, clear sea and of course the kind smiles and laughter of the people.

And those sunsets, those astounding riotous, sunsets. It is impossible to really know a place that you are touching upon for a only brief period. But this we do know. Gili Air has a kind of magic and we are happy to be under its spell.

To Feeling the Magic, Wherever You Are,


+ Because we don’t have great Wifi from our current location in Bali we had to push the start of our Wingman Mastermind group back to Thursday, May 25th. Join us, and start manifesting your dreams.

++ You can practice with me every morning, by just clicking on my web site at www.beyourownwingman.com.


+++ If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.


We Splurged… for $37 a night.

Our first impression.

When you’ve decided to make the “World Your Home”, and begin building a new digital nomad type of business, budget, like in any other business, is always a concern.

Our second view.

But for this week of our travels we decided to splurge a bit and took a room at the Sunshine Bungalows in Amed, Bali for $37 a night.

Through internet research, emailing, conversation and fantastic intuition, Jan is an amazing researcher of places to stay. She’s actually become the go-to person for so many of our friends and fellow travelers.

The orchid is a nice touch.

With good reason.

While it’s rare that you get everything you desire when on a budget, more often than not, I find we begin each new stay with our “happy dance”, a dance we do when the accommodations are better than expected.

Dinner our first night.

From the welcome foot massage and cold orange strawberry juice they gave us upon our arrival, to the comfortable bed, beautiful pool, and amazing food, we were pinching ourselves. To top that off, are the amazing views and the sound of the surf that lulls us to sleep at night.

But truly, like anything, anywhere, it is the people that surround you that make or break an experience.  And the staff here, is the true beauty of this place.  From the moment we walked in, they treated us like family, and I mean the family many of us wish we had!  The entire staff knows our names and always call out, “Hello Bupak Michael, hello Ibu Jan”. They stop and chat, asking about our day, our sleep and our happiness.

View from our porch.

And even if a couple of the guests smoke on the terrace or the beach is very rocky at low tide, like anything in life, nothing can or should be perfect. Like us.

I wish you could be here with us. The peace, tranquility, and spiritualityof this little stretch of land has been inspiring.

But since you can’t, please enjoy our pictures of what our little splurge at Sunshine Bungalows looks like.

Your Wingman,

P.S.  We had to push the start of our Wingman Mastermind group back to Thursday, May 25th. Join us, and start manifesting your dreams.

P.S.S.  You can practice with me every morning, by just clicking on my web site at www.beyourownwingman.com.

P.S.S.S.  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.