Summer of Fun Tour

My new office.

Jan and I are settling into our new normal, at least for the next 6-8 months. Ahhh, South Jersey for the summer. I’m calling it my “Summer of Fun Tour”!

Now the surest way I’ve found to make certain I have fun, is to help the people around me to have fun.

And by fun, I mean feeling better, bringing more positivity into your life, and living a life of your choosing.  In wingman parlance, you’re vibrating at a higher level. Makes sense right?  I mean, isn’t that what the WIngman’s Path is all about?

 

It takes a village, and the more of us helping energetically to be a spark of positivity, the easier it is for each of us to raise our vibration. So let’s do this!  Mark your calendars and let’s get together and enhance our lives and the lives of those around us.

Summer of Fun Tour, Wingman’s Path Practice.
Wednesdays:  July 11th, 18th, and 25th
6:30-8:00 P.M.

What:  Live Practice Sessions. 

Let’s have some fun!  Together, we will practice bringing positive energy into our lives. Come prepared to do lots of laughing, energy raising and positivity practices. You are certain to leave feeling more optimistic, focused and confident in achieving your goals and manifesting your desires.

Where:  Qdoba, 1630 Kings Hwy N, Cherry Hill, NJ 08002 (Ellisburg Circle Shopping Center).

Investment: $20 for one, $50 for all three.

Changing a culture filled with negativity is hard to do, especially when we’re fighting lifetimes of pessimism, doubt, and hopelessness.  But I know this works and I know we can do this.  We’re all in this together, and I find we can use all the help we can get.

Btw… I would never want a financial hardship to deter anyone from participating.  I can always use volunteers, wingmates, and other positive energies.  If money is an issue, contact me, via email, private message or text.

Now let’s start having some fun.

Your Wingman,
Michael

Each session is limited to 20 people. Reserve your spot now via PayPal.

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I’m Sorry for Your Loss.

I received this heartbreaking email from a friend and wanted to share my response in the hope that it might help you, or someone you know, experiencing a difficult loss.

“Good afternoon Michael, Im not sure if you were aware but my oldest son entered into eternity a little over 3 weeks ago, very unexpectedly…so, I’m in that stage of a shattered being right now…the days seem long and sometimes I don’t see a whole lot of what this so called life is really all about. But that will pass soon, I hope. As you probably do know, i respect your opinion so much, and I feel a little apprehensive in asking but I’ll do it anyway… Do you have any past wingman videos on death and dying, especially child related., as a child’s death is just not natural. If you do not, could you enlighten us with your thoughts on this? It would be most appreciated if you could and if you’re not able to I would totally understand. Thanks in advance, either way”.

Dear Friend,

I am so sorry for your loss. You honor me by asking if I have any videos, or thoughts and practices at this most challenging time.
As if there might actually be a practice that could dissolve your pain…

I’ve been struggling with what to write to you and I decided it might be best to do a FB live video for you, without using your name of course.

So that’s what I did and it is included below.

As for my thoughts, they’re simple.  I believe we are all eternal beings and you will be with your son once again.  I don’t know when, or how, or even what the configuration might be, but I feel certain we all meet up with our loved ones over and over as we travel through eternity.

As John Lennon said, “”I’m not afraid of death because I don’t believe in it.  It’s just getting out of one car, and into another.”

As for any practices, or things you can do to help you through your pain.  I am not a grief counselor, nor have I experienced your specific pain, but I have experienced pain and when I do, I do many different practices to help relieve it.  I’ve listed some here. Hopefully they will help.  Some are from the experts, along with one from me, one from a good friend nine months into a similar experience, and one from my wife, Jan.

  1. My first thought comes from my Wingdog, Monte. He taught me that when you’re hurt and in pain it’s ok to go off by yourself and lick your wounds.  There is no time-table. Allow yourself as much time as is necessary, or as you want, to get stronger before getting back to “normal”.

    2. Speaking of normal, there is no “normal”.  There is only a new normal.  With that in mind, I do have a practice I call “3Rs.  Recognize. Regroup.  Reassess.

Recognize:  You don’t need me to tell you everything has changed.  But sometimes when we’ve had a bad loss, we seem to want to return to normal.  Recognize that your life has changed, or as my big-time doctor brother-in-law said to me as Janet lay in a hospital bed 15 years ago, having surgery to remove a lobe of her lung and the cancer within, “you want to try and get back to normal, well… as normal as you can after being hit by a bus”.  Recognize that your old normal is no more.

Regroup: Take as much time as you need or want.  Take care of yourself.  Heal yourself.  And take as much time as you desire.  Have I mentioned that?

Reassess: Your life has changed.  You now have a new normal.  What do you want your life to look like from now on?

  1. From my friend and mentor, Dr. Bernie Siegel,who told me,  “When you’re going through hell ask yourself, what am I to learn from this”?

I’ve done this so often in my life and it usually helps me to stop beating myself up and gets my mind moving in a positive direction.

  1. From Rumi, a 13th-century Persian poet, theologian, and Sufi mystic. 

Rumi wrote “The Guest House”, where he talks about our physical bodies being a guest house where all emotions visit, and states we should invite them all in, even the painful ones, especially the painful ones.  I can tell you I’ve done this practice by inviting my pain in for a cup of tea, and spoken with it.

Here is the poem…

 

5.  From the Buddha. The story of Kisa Gautami.  Kisa Gautami was a woman from a wealthy family whose only son died at the age of one.  In her grief, weeping and crying, she went from house to house carrying him in her arms, begging anyone and everyone for a way to bring him back to life.  Of course, nobody could help her but she would not give up.

Finally someone advised her to go see the Buddha.  When she carried her dead child to the Buddha and told him her story he listened with patience and compassion, and then told her there was one way to solve her problem.

But to do so he would need 4 or 5 mustard seeds, but they must be from a family that had not experienced death.  Kisa was excited and filled with hope, and immediately went to find such a household.  As she went from house to house, and village to village, everyone wanted to help her and offered her mustard seeds. Unfortunately every household she visited had experienced the death of a loved one.  It was then she learned what the Buddha wanted her to find out for herself, that suffering is a part of life and death comes to us all.  It is said that once she came to terms with death being inevitable, she was able to stop her grieving.

6.  From a good friend who is nine months into to the same, unfortunate journey and wanted to share some of what he has learned.

1.  Take your time.
2.  Drugs are most definitely ok.
3.  It’s ok to laugh.  It’s ok to set down the pain and laugh.
4.  Don’t worry about being judged by others. There is no right or wrong.

  1. From my wife, Janet, who is a grief counselor and LCSW.  

To allay the feeling of grief, and in honor of him, consider doing one small thing each week.  Donate some clothes to a Veteran’s charity or domestic violence shelter, or maybe just a homeless guy on the street.  Collect some old books from around your house for a literacy program or a poor/defunded library.  Anything you come up with which may honor your son’s memory and for a few moments transmute the pain.

My thoughts, prayers, wishes and love are with you as you experience this terrible pain.  Please make certain to be kind to, and take care of, yourself.

Here is the video…

With Much Love,
Michael
Btw… I’m sorry I haven’t blogged in a while.
I’ve been posting a daily video practice each morning on my Facebook group, “The Wingman’s Path to Positivity”.  We’re now over 4000 members strong, all sharing positive energy.
Join us, and have 4000 Wingmen and Wingwomen supporting you and helping you create the life of your choosing.
Also, Jan and I are holding a workshop called, “Creating the 2018 or your Choosing”.  It will be on 1/1/18 at 11:11 am.
For more info, click here… https://www.facebook.com/events/2065492197094210/

A Last Minute Disappointment…

Ahhh… Stowe, Vermont in September.  What could be more beautiful?

We were all set for our latest house and dog sit on a ten-acre farm in Stowe.  We’ve been loving our travels all around the world, from the cliffs of Ireland to the cloud forest of Ecuador, the beaches of Thailand and Bali to the amazing, cosmopolitan Sydney, Australia. But, we started having a hankering for a little exploration right here in the USA.  And so, when a house and dog sit opportunity presented itself for September in Vermont, we jumped.  There is not much I enjoy more than a morning hike through nature with a dog at my side.  And this house sit, provided just that.  I was so excited to be in the perfect place at the perfect time.

So as Jan and I got in our car the other day and were driving north on I-95, visions of crisp morning walks, farmer’s markets with fat pumpkins and juicy apples and a canopy of red, yellow, and orange leaves swirled through our minds.  We were an hour deep into these visions when the phone call came in on Jan’s phone.

Cancelled!  At the last minute.  “Wwwwhhhhhhaaaatttt”, I exclaimed!  “What do you mean, we’re cancelled”?  “What happened”?

What happened doesn’t really matter.  The fact was we were heading north and we now had no destination.  What a bummer.

Have you ever had a last minute change of plans?

A disappointment that seemingly came out of nowhere?

Let’s face it, as far as setbacks go, this one was pretty minor.  I mean, it wasn’t like losing your job, your spouse or your health.

But I was expecting a free month in a beautiful area and it was no longer happening.  It wasn’t hard for me to recognize my vibration was no longer “wingman worthy”.

What’s a wingman to do?

Well I’ll tell you what this wingman did. I pulled off the highway to the nearest diner for a breakfast of eggs and potatoes, which always raises my vibe, and Jan and I began a Wingman practice I call the “Three R’s”.

 Reassess. Regather. Regroup.

When things change in your life, a loss occurs, a disappointment, a shift in plans, too often, we as humans can’t see past that occurrence and our vibration reflects that stuckness.  Instead of addressing the big unknown of, “what’s next?” we stay stuck on the problem in the now, only to keep smacking into a vibrational wall of pain.

  Reassess. 

When circumstances change, it’s wise to reassess your situation. 

Ask yourself… “Where am I right now”?  And don’t start your answer with where you thought you were going to be.  That only keeps you in a negative place and it’s no longer relevant.  For us, our situation wasn’t really too bad.  We had a car packed full of clothing, a full tank of gas, and nowhere to be.  That actually didn’t sound too bad.

Regather.

Things have changed; when that happens it’s a good idea to regather your thoughts.

Again, don’t contemplate what was to be, or where you were two minutes prior.  If each one of my thoughts began with, “I just lost a free month on a farm in Stowe, Vermont”, my momentum would continue downhill from there.

Jan and I decided to start right where we were, in a dive diner off of I-95, with a car full of clothing, a full tank of gas, and a month where no one expected us to be anywhere.

“What do we want to do right now” is how we began to regather our thoughts.  We took a minute, cleared our heads, and opened our minds to the possibilities.

 Regroup.

Whenever I coach individuals or speak at workshops about being on the Wingman’s Path to positivity and a more joyous life, I always begin and end with, “Observe Your Vibration”.  It was time to regroup, and to me, that meant getting my vibration, the frequency I was emitting out into the universe, back on a positive path.

How?  By envisioning what would make us happy.  In that moment.

It didn’t take long for the answer to come to us.  We had been to Belfast, Maine a few times in our lives and had always talked about going back.  As the waitress refilled our coffee, Jan got busy looking at Airbnb’s.  By the time we paid our bill, our new course had been plotted and we had plans to stay the next week in a 2-bedroom apartment above a hardware store on Main Street, right in the center of Belfast.

Reassess your situation.

Regather your thoughts.

Regroup your vibration.

And start to be your own Wingman.

You can click below to practice the Wingman Three R’s practice with me…

To being able to pivot your way to positivity when things don’t go as planned,
Your Wingman,
Michael

A New Wingman Mastermind Group

It’s Time to Mastermind!

Do you have a desire you want to manifest? A dream you’ve secretly been hoping for? Or a goal you want to achieve?

Let our Wingman Mastermind Group help you.

We invite you to join us, Michael Gross, Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and Janet Sokoloff, LCSW Psychotherapist, for our next Mastermind Group,

“Creating the Life You Want”.

A Wingman Mastermind Group is a group of individuals that come together as a team to help each other achieve their personal goals and manifest their desires by providing ideas, accountability, cheerleading, feedback and support.

This two month on-line Mastermind Group will bring together people who share your desire to alter their present situation and live a more authentic life.

Whether it be a career change, a health or fitness goal, a loving relationship, complete lifestyle shift or whatever you can imagine, this group can help you see that goal come to fruition.
Through weekly group conversations and individual coaching sessions, we will help you succeed at overcoming your challenges and manifesting your desires.

 

 

“The change is definite. I truly feel as if there was a general shift within me, placing me at a higher vibrational set point. I now find the achievement of my goals believable and certain. I never felt that way before. I think it’s because of the ongoing support and homework from this mastermind group that made that shift possible. So thank you Michael Gross and Janet Sokoloff!  Thank you group!”  
                     Lisa Shiroff, Voorhees, NJ

After years of feeling stuck in our lives and jobs, we took a major life leap and have since been living the life of our choosing by traveling the world and working remotely.
This experience has led to our firm belief that anyone, and everyone, can live their own dreams.

“Thank you Janet and Michael. Your Mastermind group has helped me tremendously. It has helped me clarify my goals, set an accountable timeline to reach those goals and given me tools to overcome obstacles along the way!! I feel like I can’t fail. Great Job!”
  Hugh McGuire, Collingswood, NJ

Join us for this exciting and enriching experience and start moving in the direction of your goals.
We will be facilitating each meeting, utilizing our many years of collective experience in life coaching, psychotherapy, and thought and vibration shifting processes.

“My initial goal of a healthy, fit lifestyle is already coming to fruition with the intent and energy with which we have fueled it. Now, new visions are flowing to me to expand. Thank you to Janet and Michael for honoring your vision to create this mastermind group. Thank you to each of our members for sharing with us. It truly is beautiful how our intentions are swirling and overlapping to be able to help each other rise higher.”
                   Bella Beth Evans, Greenville, South Carolina

In this group you will:

  • Find answers and ideas from brainstorming with the group
  • Tap into the experience and skills of others
  • Increase your confidence in your ability to achieve your desires
  • Gain an instant and valuable support network
  • Experience a sense of shared endeavor
  • Enjoy a boost to your everyday positive mental attitude

We’re looking for team members who are willing to:

  • Participate in each call
  • Share their expertise and challenges
  • Come prepared to each session
  • Be committed to achieving their goal
  • In order to receive maximum benefit and attention, this two-month on-line group is limited to six participants.

This investment in yourself will cost $550.00 and includes:

  • Seven-90 minute on-line group sessions from wherever you are in the world
  • Weekly individual 30 minute coaching sessions with Michael and Janet to keep you focused, motivated and on target
  • Weekly Homework
  • Daily support, motivation, inspiration and conversation via a private Facebook Group page

Details:

We will meet on-line on Tuesday Nights from 7:00-8:30pm EST
Session Dates will be September 12th, 19th, 26th, October 3rd, 10th, 17th, 24th.

Individual Coaching sessions can be scheduled weekly.

Register now for this life changing experience.

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We look forward to being a part of your success team,
Michael and Janet

+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.

++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.

Join us Thursday.

We’re so excited to invite you for a night of conversation, inspiration and vibration raising as we discuss manifesting a joyous life.

As you may already know, two years ago, Janet, an LCSW therapist, and I, took a leap of faith, sold our home, left our day jobs and now live and work nomadically.

It’s the life we desired.

The question we get asked the most is how we did it.
How were we able to shift the reality we were living to one of our own design?

Join us, as we answer that question and inspire each other to dream big and start creating the life you desire. Let’s explore what steps you
can take today, right now, to start moving in the direction of your goals and dreams.

Thursday, July 27th, 2017.  7-9pm.
Location: Just Breathe, 2800 Rt 130, Suite 100, Cinnaminson, NJ 08077
$18 in advance, Payable through PayPal, $20.00 at the door
RSVP: Michael@beyourownwingman.com

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Your Wingman,
Michael

+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.

++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.

Coming Home, But To No House.

When you decide to make the world your home, life truly becomes a great adventure. Every new day is an exploration, always new, always different and usually exciting.

But what happens when you’re back on your home field, without your old comforts?  When you no longer have your house, your stuff and you’re always staying with friends.

When everything you own is in a 10 x 15 storage unit, and you don’t even remember what’s in there.  I can’t tell you how many times Jan or I have referenced an article of clothing, a piece of furniture or a favorite tchotchke, only to have it followed by,

“somewhere in the storage unit”.

Yes, Jan and I are very fortunate to have some amazing friends that offer us not only a roof over our heads, but the loving feeling of being at home. It’s really wonderful, but no matter how comfortable and loving they are, when we’re back home, we’re always living as a guest.

It’s just a different feeling than cooking in your own kitchen, hanging in your own easy chair, watching your own TV, or sleeping in your own bed.

Yes, I’m putting my travels on hold for a time and coming home once again, even if I have no house to come home to.

Jan’s actually been in Haddonfield, NJ, our “home turf”, with her family for the last couple of weeks while I’ve been hanging with my Mom in Providence, RI visiting her each day at her assisted living facility.

And it’s there, in these past two weeks, I’ve come to appreciate my true home.
Because without Jan with me, I’ve become the most boring person alive.

I’ve been staying at my sisters while they’re on vacation.  Each and every day has been pretty much the same.

I come home after being with my mom, feed the cat, give her some love, and then watch TV.  And they don’t even have cable!

I’m literally one step away from becoming a crazy cat lady.  Well two.

“Home could be the Pennsylvania turnpike
Indiana’s early morning dew
High up in the hills of California 
Home is just another word for you”  Billy Joel

That’s right.
The world may be my home, but Jan is my world.
And I can’t wait to be home, wherever that may be.

This week, home is New York City and then a week in Pipersville, Pa.

Then finally, a month back home in Southern New Jersey where I may not have my easy chair, but I’ll have a Donkey’s cheese steak, some Croce’s buffalo chicken and broccoli rabe, breakfast at the Bistro in Haddonfield, and some old friends.

And I’ll be with Jan.
I’ll be home.
And I’ve never been more thankful for that.

 

Today’s Wingman Practice:

I realize I’m a lucky guy.
And maybe that’s not where you are right now.
Maybe you’re in a living hell.

You’re not alone.
We’ve all been there.
Some us for years, even decades.

And it doesn’t matter physically where “there” is. I spent the better part of 15 years as a victim in my own mind.

If that is where you are right now, today’s practice will help you raise your vibration and begin to climb out of that hellhole.

Or if you’re in a great place, it will help you make it even better.

Join me, and for one minute say, I’m coming home.  And while saying it, think about what home is to you.

When I think of home, I think of love, comfort and safety.
A place where I can totally just relax and be me.
A refuge from the storm.
Soft pants, sweat shirts and slippers.

Or I think of Jan.  And I can’t wait to be home.

For you, imagine your home exactly as you want it to be.
And see yourself right there.

How does that feel?
That is the vibration I want you to practice sending out into the universe.

Click below and practice with me.  I’ll also be doing this practice live on Facebook on Sunday morning.

To your perfect home, no matter where, or who, it may be,

Your Wingman,

Michael

+  You can practice with me every morning on Facebook Live.  
++  If you want to improve your positive energy, increase your level of
success, and begin living the life you desire, feel free to contact me for individual on-line sessions with both Janet, an LCSW and Psychotherapist for the past 20 years, and myself.