Lime Green Cars

Driving up to Providence, Rhode Island last week to visit family, the conversation, not surprisingly turned to my latest wingman practice.
Equally unsurprising was the slight ‘eye roll’ from my wife. 

“I have a perfect practice for us to do on our journey”, I said.

The eye roll became an eye twitch.  If only I could read ‘tells’ like this at the poker table.

She stayed true to form though, sweetly, lovingly asking what type of practice it was, and where had I heard of it.

“From the book “E Squared”, the author, Pam Grout, comes from a science background.
The premise of this practice is that what shows up in our lives is a direct reflection of our thoughts and emotions.”

“Really, how does it work?” she replied with interest, or she had figured out her ‘tell’.

“It’s simple.  We pick an unusual color car to look for, and see how many of them we see”. 

“Ok, what color should we pick”?

We both said, “lime green”, at the exact same time.  Me, because my wife loves the color, and I was excited to have her try out this new experiment with me.
Her, because how many lime green cars do you really see, and it would keep me quiet and focused on driving.

Different goals, same game.

I kept the conversation alive, “How many lime green cars would you have to see, for you to believe?”

“You mean to believe we can set our intention and have the universe bring it to us?” “I don’t know, have to be more then a few. 
Are you saying to sort of believe, or to know without a shadow of a doubt”?
“Let’s just say 6.”

So began our quest to see lime green cars, and with it, perhaps a better understanding of our universe. 

It started out slowly, I’d point one out, maybe 2 or 3 by the time we arrived.
Next day, as we explored Newport, I pointed out 2 or 3 more.  

Since then, and it’s been about a week, it’s reached the point, where everywhere I am I see them. 

To the point where…

… Driving with my brother-in-law, the medical school dean, who doesn’t usually participate in these sort of things, and he actually turned the car around to point one out to us.

… Driving on Route I-76, the Schuylkill Expressway.  Turns out their new state safety patrol trucks are lime green, and I had one on both sides of me. photo

… When the producer of my ‘Condition Your Mind to be Positive’ live stream radio show asked me the title of this week’s show, and I told him “Lime Green Cars”, he stated there was one on our commercial running right then. “Of course there is”, I answered. 

And my favorite…  My wife came home the other day and exclaimed, “We have to pick another color, there are just too many lime green cars”.

Which brings me back to the hypothesis of the experiment, if I decide to look for something (lime green cars), will I find it.

I certainly have just proved it for myself.

What now?
Now I start looking for things I want.  You can too.

Today’s practice:  Lime Green Cars:  Pick something unusual, it can be purple feathers, blue butterflies or even lime green cars.  Prove to yourself that what you look for, you find. 

Enjoy the find,
Michael

 

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Imagining the Unimaginable.

Imagine you are trying to be healthier.
And your wife and daughter have gone gluten free.
And you’re from Philly, which means you love a good cheesesteak.
And a good hoagie.
And you grew up loving them.

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Marie’s Sandwich Bar in Haddonfield NJ

And you tried gluten free. If only in support of those you love.
And you started feeling better.
And your skin stopped itching.

And then you get together with friends, and have some pretty good sandwiches.
And then there’s a dinner party…
And you forget about gluten free for the next six months.
And your skin starts itching again.

And you decide maybe you should try it again.

And you know they’ve figured out Gluten Free sweets. Many are awesome.
And you also know they haven’t figured out the bread.
Cause it always falls apart.

And so, you know you must “fuhgedaboudit”, about cheesesteaks and hoagies.
And you can’t ever imagine that.
Not just not eating sandwiches, but ‘Philly’ sandwiches. On rolls.
The kind you would eat with your brother on so many different occasions.

So you decide to make it into a wingman practice.
Imagining being Gluten Free, not actually doing it, imagining it.
If only for one minute.

And then you decide to actually do it.
And you’re eating a lot of beans, greens and rice.
And you’re lucky… because you love beans, greens and rice.

Almost as much as a cheesesteak, but much healthier.
And you’re doing pretty well.

And you still really miss a good sandwich.
Cause you’re a ‘sandwich’ kinda guy. From Philly.

And your daughter starts telling you about this place.
Taffet’s bakery, in South Philly.  http://www.taffets.com
And they bake great Gluten Free bread and rolls.
Up till now, that would be an oxymoron (sort of).

And the good vibes keep coming.
Cause there’s a sandwich shop right near you, that uses Taffet’s rolls.
Right in Haddonfield. Walking distance even.
And they make a really good sandwich.
Marie’s Sandwich Bar, in the courtyard in Haddonfield.  http://mariessandwichbar.com

And imagine you dropped your spouse off right near there.
Around lunchtime.
And you tried it.
And you were in heaven, if only for one minute.

And the roll was good. Really good.
And it held up.
And while it’s not quite a regular roll.
You were in heaven… if only for one minute.

If you can imagine that, you can imagine where I ate lunch on Saturday.

And maybe you can imagine your own unimaginable. Just takes a little practice.

Give it a try, if only for a minute.

Today’s practice. Think about something you want to change.
Close your eyes and imagine it for one minute.

Here’s to imagining a great July 4th weekend,
Michael

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Free Bear Hugs

Nothing like a free bear hug to keep some positive momentum going.
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Free Bear Hugs!
I was in Ocean Grove, New Jersey for their town wide flea market this past weekend and happened upon this young lady. Loved her ingenuity and the fact she was doing her share to keep everyone happy.

“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.”
Virginia Satir,  American Psychotherapist 

20140531_135454According to different scientific research, hugging, even an inanimate object like a teddy bear, has some major benefits.
Here’s a quick High Five of what it can do for you.
1.  Hugging lowers our heart rate and our blood pressure: According to Tiffany Field, Ph.D. and director of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine, when somebody hugs you, the sensation on your skin activates pressure receptors called Pacinian corpuscles, which send signals to the Vagus nerve which slows our heart down and decreases our blood pressure. Another study led by Dr. Charmaine Griffiths of the British Heart Foundation shows that hugs and handholding provides beneficial heart health and reduces stress. When a group of couples were told to discuss an “angry event”, the group that held hands and hugged before the confrontation evidenced lower heart rate and blood pressure.
2. Hugging reduces stress: Research by Matt Hertenstein, Experimental Psychologist at DePauw University in Indiana, suggests that hugging or hand-holding results in a decrease of the stress hormone cortisol. “Having this friendly touch, just somebody simply touching our arm and holding it, buffers the physiological consequences of this stressful response,”
3. Hugging helps us feel more connected: Hugging increases the release of oxytocin, a neuropeptide that, according to Hertenstein, “promotes feelings of devotion, trust and bonding. It really lays the biological foundation and structure for connecting to other people”.
4. Hugging makes us happier: Recent studies from England indicate that our orbital frontal cortex (area of the brain just above our eyes) becomes activated in response to friendly touch. It’s the same area that responds to sweet tastes (think chocolate) and pleasant smells.
5. Hugging relieves anxiety, depression and existential fears: Research done at UV University Amsterdam found that people with low self-esteem are plagued with more disturbing existential angst (read: anxiety and depression) than the rest of the general population. According to Sander Koole, lead researched on the study, ‘Our findings show that even touching an inanimate object – such as a teddy bear – can soothe existential fears. Interpersonal touch is such a powerful mechanism that even objects that simulate touch by another person may help to instill in people a sense of existential significance,”
 
And I thought I was just happy walking around with my wife and friends. Turns out, by hugging “Teddy” I helped myself a whole lot more.
Give it a try.
 
Today’s Practice: Go hug someone, something, or even yourself.
And let me know if it helps you feel better.
 
Wingmaning on,
Michael
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Missing the Moment…

“Either define the moment, or the moment will define you.”  
                                                             Walt Whitman
Walt Whitman

Missing the moment… or learning the lesson.

I had an opportunity for a powerful moment last week.
Got a ‘B’. Should of gotten an ‘A+’. 

I missed the moment.
Looking back, I should of done so much more. I can’t get it out of my mind.
I’m ‘shoulding’ all over myself.
It was a great moment.
I missed it.

Been thinking about it all morning.
Focusing on it so much I start cursing myself.
It’s killing me.

An object in motion stays in motion. And my motion ‘ain’t’ good.

Fortunately (unfortunately), I’ve had this feeling before.
I’ve ‘learned ‘ this lesson before.
Different situation, same sucky feeling.

Used to ask, “why?” Would say (mostly sarcastically),
“Thank you God, thank you for this lesson once again.”

Now I say, “Thank you for this lesson, I’ll learn it well”.

And I think about the lesson.

What am I to learn? Is there something I could of done better?

And then I play my game, ‘Find the Positives’.
It’s great I was able to have the opportunity.
I learned a valuable lesson.
I’m now better prepared.
I’ll do much better next time.
Thank you for this lesson.
I’m much clearer now.
If I attracted this opportunity, I can attract more of them.
I’m getting so much better at this.
I’m so glad I learned this lesson now.
What a great learning experience.
I can do this.
I was made for this.
I’ve got this.
This could be the best thing that ever happens to me.
Did you ‘miss the moment’ recently.
Are you having a problem letting it go?

It could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Try today’s practice, “Find the Positives”.

Take 60 seconds and come up with as many positives as you can think of in your situation. Watch it change your energy.

And have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend,

Michael

P.S. Don’t forget next Thursday’s Wingman Workout.
It’s a great way to kick off your best summer ever.
Wingman Workout

When: Thursday, May 29th, 7:00-8:30 pm

Where: NJBalance Wellness Center
43 S. Main Street
Medford, NJ 08055

Cost: $20

Register: Phone: 609-975-8378
Email: njbalancewellness@gmail.com
Please include your name & phone #.

 

 

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Two Lucky Guys.

I was called to action the other day and was needed to pick my young friend Mario up from his afterschool activities as his mom worked late. As it was Wednesday night, I brought him with me for my weekly spot as co-host on the Talk-N-Angels radio show.
 
It’s often a time I do some wingman practices, so I asked Mario if he wanted to do one of my practices with me.
 
Mario:          “Yes, what do we do”?
Me:                “We go back and forth saying to each other, “I am a lucky guy”.
Mario:           “Ok. I’ll start. I am a lucky guy”.
Me:                “I am a lucky guy”.
Mario:           “I am a lucky guy”.
Me:               “I am a lucky guy”.
Mario:           “I’m a really lucky guy”.
Me:                “I’m a really lucky guy”.
Mario:           “I’m a super lucky guy”.
Me:                “I’m a super lucky guy”.
 
Both of us:    “We’re really lucky guys”.
Both of us:    “We’re really lucky guys”.
 
Just then, I noticed the soft pretzel place was still open and veered my car into the shopping center. I always love a good soft pretzel.
Mario liked the idea as well.
 
I explained the pretzel place is normally closed when I drive by because they close at 6 pm and I usually pass here just after.
Today, it was 5:58.
 
“That’s lucky”, Mario said, referring to the fact they were still open.
“Your practice really works. Let’s see if we can get more lucky.”
 
Smiling, I agreed, “Yes, let’s see if we can get more lucky”.
 
As we were putting on mustard (spicy brown for me), a woman at the table dropped about a $1.00 in change.
Mario picked it up to give back to her. She told him to keep it.
 
He looked at me with a giant smile.
 
We’re two lucky guys.
 
Today’s Practice: I urge you to take one minute right now, yes right now, and say out loud or to yourself, I am lucky, I am really lucky, I am super lucky.
 
And start seeing if you can get more lucky.
 
To Your Fantastic Luck,
 
Michael
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Your Best Summer. Ever.

Imagine Your Best Summer.  Ever.
 
I find it much easier to do, the better I feel.
I know when I feel better, my imagination is much clearer.  
And more fun.
It’s also when I do my best work and attract more positive energy.
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Looking into the water yesterday morning.

 
“When I feel good about myself, things start happening for myself.
  When you look up, you go up”.      Herschel Walker

Herschel at 48.

 
 
My way to feel better is simple.  A one-minute Wingman Workout.
It helps me practice conditioning my mind to be upbeat and confident.
To coach myself up. 
Bottom line, it helps my ‘vibe’.
 
Even better, is when we get together for a group Wingman Workout.
Our connection, no surprise, makes it much easier for each of us 
to experience that exhilaration, and provide a spark to all of us.
 
This Mother’s Day, give something of value.
Give some positive energy. 
 
To Your best summer ever,
Michael
 
Join me for A Wingman Workout.
A Wingman Workout is a non-physical experience, designed to raise your vibration.
Feeling down or feeling great, a Wingman Workout will provide a spark of positive energy, helping elevate you to a higher level.

One week after participating in a Wingman Workout, over 90% of respondents report a higher level of emotional satisfaction, productivity, calmness and confidence.
More impressive is that 100% of repeat participants and those that continued practicing have reported more energy with more confidence in setting and achieving their goals.

Why is it working for so many?
It’s simple really, by saying high vibration words over and over; you surround yourself with more positive energy.

Neuroscience states it differently…
‘With nothing more than mental training the brain can be rewired…’

Start your summer practicing being more positive.
It could be your best summer ever.

                When: Thursday, May 29th, 7:00-8:30 pm

                Where: NJBalance Wellness Center
                              43 S. Main Street
                             Medford, NJ 08055
Cost: $20

Register: Phone: 609-975-8378
Email: njbalancewellness@gmail.com
Please include your name & phone #.

Michael Gross will instruct the workout. He is a Certified Law of Attraction Life Coach and creator of the Wingman Workout.
Michael can be heard as:
Host of ‘Condition Your mind to be Positive’, Thursdays @ 11-11:30 am and
Co-Host of the ‘Talk-N-Angels’ radio show Wednesday evenings @ 7-8 pm.

www.beyourownwingman.com

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