Coming Home.

There’s a great story in Jewish and Buddhist circles about the Jewish mother who treks to Thailand in search of a famous guru. After an exhaustive 24 hours of travel, by plane, train, Songthaew and Tuk tuk, she makes it to Wat Arun, the famous temple in Bangkok. An old monk in orange robes opens the door, and the woman promptly requests a meeting with the Master.

The monk explains that this is impossible because the guru is in silent retreat, meditating at Wat Tham Pha Plong, at the top of a mountain in Chiang Dao.

She insists upon seeing him until the monk acquiesces. However, he demands on the following rules: The meeting must be brief, she must bow when addressing the guru, and she can say no more than eight words to him.

The woman agrees, buys a bus ticket and a new pair of comfortable hiking shoes, and sets off on her arduous journey. After a 10-hour bus ride, and 5-hour hike up the mountain, she finally arrives at the temple. Keeping within the eight-word limit in addressing the guru, she breathes in deeply, walks in, bows and says, “Sheldon, it’s your mother. Enough already, come home!”

Yes, it is time to come home.
And there you can find me from May 1st to May 21st.

Now I’m no guru, but I have been able to manifest my dreams of living life on my terms. No alarm clock, traveling light, creating workshops, online positivity training, helping others and appreciating the world.

Your dreams may be different but it would be my honor to help you manifest them by sharing my blueprint that enabled my vision to materialize. Let me help you actualize yours.
It’s simple, takes four minutes a day, and I’m certain you’ll be able to master it.  If I can, you can.

As Henry David Thoreau said,
“Live the life you have imagined”.

I can help you make that happen.

To set up an individual coaching session with me, email

To attend one of my workshops, see below.

With Much Appreciation,


How I Manifested My Dream Working 4 minutes a Day!

You Can Too!

Wingman Positivity Training Workshop.

Two different nights.

1. Thursday, May 5th, 6:30 – 8:00 pm – Oaklyn, NJ.
2. Monday, May 16th, 6:30 – 8:00 pm – Medford, NJ

Building a positive inner team, your Thoughts, Emotions, Actions and Manifestations, is the most important element to achieving any goal or manifesting any desire. And it requires PRACTICE.

Participants will be directed through a series of practices based on…
1. Shifting cognitions.
2. Neuroscience
3. Lessons learned from my time spent with a Buddhist Zen Master.

Participants have reported feeling…

  • Less anxious and depressed.
  • Better control of their thoughts and emotions.
  • Increased awareness of the frequency they are emitting.
  • More empowered and more focused on their goals.
  • Improved hopefulness of attaining those goals.
  • Expectation of continuing their positivity practices.

Two different workshops…

1. Thursday, May 5th 6:30 – 8:00 pm at Spirit Light Services,
916 White Horse Pike, Oaklyn, NJ 08107.
Register @

2. Monday, May 16th, 6:30 – 8:00 pm at The Center,
Life in Balance, 45 South Main Street Medford, NJ 08055.
Register: Phone: 609-975-8379 or
Please include your name & phone #.

Cost is $30. Email me at

Michael Gross is the owner of Be Your Own Wingman Positivity Training and a Certified Law of Attraction Life Coach. He has coached municipalities, businesses, Miss New Jersey and many others to better achieve their goals.
His “Build Your Inner Team” workshops have helped thousands to see positives instead of negatives, solutions instead of problems, and to focus on what’s going right in their lives and businesses, and build from there.
His “Be Your Own Wingman” concept has been praised by Marc Allen, owner of New World Library, and best selling authors Donald Altman, SARK and Dr. Bernie Siegel.

The Laughing Practice

Michael Gross “The Wingman” demonstrates his 1-minute laughing practice.

Post Archives


Coming Home.

There’s a great story in Jewish and Buddhist circles about the Jewish mother who treks to Thailand in search of a famous guru. After an exhaustive 24 hours of travel, by plane, train, Songthaew and Tuk tuk, she makes it to Wat Arun, the famous temple in Bangkok.... read more

“I’m a Lucky Guy” one minute practice.

Today I bring you a great practice live from Thailand! I’ve videoed myself doing my one minute, “I’m a lucky guy” practice, so let’s have some fun together and get some good luck going all over this world! Join with me in doing this... read more

Thinking Distortions, on Talk-n-Angels radio…

Tonight on Talk-n-Angels, Michael and his wife Janet, an LCSW therapist, will discuss the most common thinking distortions, and how to eliminate them. One of the biggest factors, and reasons for anxiety, nervousness and depression are the falsifications our minds play... read more

Join Me in Bangkok…

If you’re in Bangkok for Songkran, the start of the Thai New Year, please join me for a Wingman, “Live Your Dream, Build Your Inner Team” workshop at Omroom, “the wellness spa in the heart of the city”. Live Your Dream Build Your Inner... read more

Five Things for World Peace and Happiness.

Today I bring you day 1, part 2 of my meetings with the Venerable Jung Bong Mu Mu from South Korea. For those of you who missed the first one,, this is the second installment of my conversations with him. These exchanges... read more

Daily Positivity Coaching.

Are you looking to live your dream? It all starts with being positive. After my last Increasing Your Positivity course, many of the participants wanted to continue. Therefore I have decided to create a daily positivity coaching program. I’ve seen what it can do... read more

Perfect Emptiness

One of the highlights of my 4-month trip to Thailand has been the 4 amazing days Jan and I spent with the Venerable Moo Moo Sunim and his 2 disciples from South Korea. The lessons I learned from him on Buddhism, life and enlightenment were too precious for me not to... read more

The Darker Side…

We started our visit to Chiang Rai in bad spirits. I had broken my glasses and Jan had an episode with a wild dog that had left her unnerved. After a long morning trying to find an optical shop that could fix my glasses, and a visit to the hospital for a doctor... read more

Almost Paradise

“Almost Paradise”, a story Janet wanted to share. After six weeks of the excitement and chaos of Chiang Mai, it was time to head north for a change of scenery and some exploration. We decided to return to Chiang Dao for a couple of days. We caught the 8:00... read more

Tonight… Lessons from a Zen Master.

It’s been a surreal week as Jan and I met with the Venerable Mu Mu Sunim and his disciples from South Korea. We met by chance, one year ago ( and stayed in touch via email. I’m still trying... read more

I am Nakbin.

It is 510 steps up the mountain to Wat Tham Pha Plang, a Thai Buddhist temple built into the Chiang Dao Mountain. We were staying about 500 yards away in a bamboo hut that was surrounded by jungle.  We had planned on staying only 1 day but it was so beautiful we... read more

Join me tonight, straight from Thailand…

I’m flying solo on the Talk-n-Angels radio show tonight as Rita is taking the night off. I’ll be discussing what I’m learning about Buddhism, how it’s impacted my wingman philosophy, and how it can help all of us in the Western world. Listen... read more

Never Ending Valentine.

A belated happy Valentine’s Day and a sweet memory from Janet. After four days of being on the road in northern Thailand, hiking through mountain villages and taking mini bus rides with 800 sickening, gorgeous hairpin curves, we arrived back in Chiang Mai,... read more

My Wife, the Guru. And the Monk’s Trail.

The Monk’s Trail… my wife had read about it on Pinterest. A concealed trek through the forest to Wat Pha Lat, a temple rarely visited by tourists. Perhaps that’s because it’s halfway up the road to it’s much more famous sibling, Wat Doi Suthep, the most well... read more

Wingman Home Course Starts this Monday.

Wingman “Increasing Your Positivity” Home Course Starts this Monday, February 1st, 2016. Registration ends Sunday, January 31st. I’m starting another Wingman Home Course this Monday, and I’m certain it will help you increase your positive... read more

Finding What You Want.

Thanks for all the return emails from my Sawadee Kap post (  I so appreciate the comments and well wishes about how things are working out for Jan and me. They are, and we’re both very grateful. My hope... read more

Sawadee Kap from Thailand

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Swan Lake

So I’m in Providence last week, taking my morning walk along the Seekonk River. It’s crazy foggy outside, I can barely see. It’s also a bit muddled inside my own head as my personal demons are having a bit of fun with me. They’re throwing... read more

Homeless Once Again.

It was 25+ years ago.  I was in the investment world, literally one week from earning a giant paycheck. Instead I got broke.  And I got broken. The details aren’t important, although they sure seemed to be then.  I was crushed.  And it went down from there. I... read more


So you’re riding the wave of higher frequencies. Enjoying everything coming your way. The challenges, the successes, even the lessons learned. You notice you’re smiling more.  You’re feeling, “You da man, Billy Tan” a whole lot more.... read more

More Proof to Practice, from the NY Times

Great article in the New York Times about how choosing to be grateful will make you happier. Just in time for Thanksgiving… Have a wonderful Thanksgiving... read more